My dear friend Traci over at Compassionate Revolt introduced me to this adorable webcomic, Kimchi Cuddles. It's written by Tikva Wolf and features a regular cast of characters that invite you to explore issues around being poly, queer, and genderqueer in a funny and approachable way. I highly recommend checking it out if any of that interests you.
So, why post this particular cartoon out of so many? I hear people in relationships talk about communication issues ALL the time, and not just in the therapy office. If you've ever had trouble feeling heard or understood by your partner, then you know what I'm talking about. The issues folks bring to therapy often include feeling misunderstood and experiencing a lack of love, affection, and intimacy. In the above cartoon, the character Marco asks a couple of powerful questions about making demands around love and understanding. The cartoon encourages us to examine our own stuff about getting the love we want.
So I ask:
How do you approach getting the love and intimacy you desire from a partner?
How do you communicate what you need?
Do you encourage your partner(s) to do the same?
If you're not satisfied with the level of emotional intimacy in your relationship(s), what steps can you take to increase honest communication and understanding?
Feedback is always welcome, so feel free to comment below and share what's working or not working for you right now. Thanks for reading!