I think it’s important to have daily rituals. No, you don’t need a sacrificial goat. I’m talking about the small things you do every day to feel good. The activities that make you feel vital. Something from a Ted Talk stuck with me: “The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality.” It inspired me to think more about the meaning of that word, vitality, cause it sounds pretty good. Here are some definitions I found:
1. The power to live, grow, or develop.
2. The state of being strong and active; energy.
3. The characteristic, principle, or force that distinguishes living things from nonliving things. (whoa)
I don’t know about you, but I want some of that. In the article “What Happy People Do Differently” from Psychology Today, the authors write, “Yes, being happy might be healthy – but craving happiness is a slippery slope. As well-being researchers, we don’t deny the importance of happiness – but we've also concluded that a well-lived life is more than just one in which you feel ‘up’. The good life is best construed as a matrix that includes happiness, occasional sadness, a sense of purpose, playfulness, and psychological flexibility, as well autonomy, mastery, and belonging.” So the next time you’re feeling something other than happy, maybe even something awful, think about vitality and do one small thing that makes you feel strong or energetic; even if that means just taking some deep breaths and sitting with those uncomfortable feelings for a bit. (Look for a post soon on breathing).
I didn't expect to get into depression, happiness, or vitality when I started writing about rituals. It’s amazing where a cup of coffee cherry tea can take you. That’s been my morning ritual lately. What’s yours?
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